The Mercy We Ask For, the Mercy We Give
Sunday’s reading are challenging. It continues the theme of reconciliation that we began last Sunday. Perhaps we can sum up the lesson for today in the following points.
First, do we pray for something from God which we deny to others?
Second, let go of wrath, anger, hurt, and resentments. Instead, seek healing, forgiveness, and mercy.
Third, learn to forgive yourself. If you cannot forgive yourself, you cannot forgive anyone else.
Fourth, contrary to the American and New York way of thinking, your life does not belong to you alone. Your life is in relationship with many other lives. You are not alone; you are part of a wide network of relationships.
From my pastoral experience, I have found that while people complain of how hurt they are or have been, they refuse to let go of the feelings and they keep them always uppermost in their memory. Thus, they allow the past hurt to control their present, and it never disappears. Consequently, they never experience peace.
However, it seems that we like our hurts and our anger. Yes, many of us love to keep telling the story over and over again so we get sympathy and attention. When we tell the story, we are always seeing ourselves as right and the other as wrong.
If this is your habit, pray for grace to let it go. Then you may have peace. Also pray to see your part in the hurt inflicted. Forgive yourself and move on.
In the Gospel, the message is clear as day. Do not ask for forgiveness, or mercy, or kindness from God if you refuse mercy, kindness, and forgiveness to others.
So, if you seek patience from God, then show patience to another. If you seek a particular healing or care for your family, then be a sign of healing for someone else. The graces you need from God, try to be that grace for someone else.
In this way, you are not the center of your prayer; rather, the Lord and His commandment are the center of prayer.
Msgr. Guy A. Massie
Sunday, September 13, 2026
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