November: The Month of Remembrance
 
As we see the change in colors, the summer sun gives way to the dimmer light of fall and winter, we are placed in an atmosphere of remembering. We remember with thankfulness our many blessings on Thanksgiving Day, and we remember those who have died for our country on Veterans’ Day. November lulls us into looking back over the past year and remembering events of the past. Thus, just before the great and joyful season of Advent and Christmas, we take this month of shorter days, colder afternoons, and falling leaves to remember in hope those whose lives have touched us.
All Souls Day: Remembering Our Faithful Departed
On All Souls Day, we the Church, remember and pray for our beloved dead who have gone before us marked with the sign of faith. The reason we pray for our faithful departed is that we believe that our prayers can assist our loved ones. We pray that God may have mercy on them, look upon their faults with a merciful heart, and forgive them their sins or failings.
We are also told in 2 Maccabees 12:43-46 that it is a “good and wholesome thought to pray for the dead.” The reason praying for the dead is a good and wholesome thought is stated in the reading: “… because (Judas Maccabees) had the resurrection of the dead in mind.” We pray for the dead because we believe in the resurrection of the dead and life of the world to come. This we profess when we say the Creed.
The liturgy of the day moves us to hope. The readings remind us that those who have gone before us marked with the sign of faith are in the hands of God. Believing that our loved ones are with God gives us hope and peace of mind and heart.
Faith and Love Survive Death
While our faith is our strength and eternal life our hope, our hearts still hurt and our spirits still feel the loss. Love never dies; people die. God is love. The love we have experienced in the lives of our loved ones and the love we have for them survives death. Why? The reason is that we believe God is love.
In the First Letter of John, we read, “We are God’s children now; what we shall later be has not yet come to light. When it does, we shall see God as He is.” This tells us that we survive death, that our relationship with God continues, and that death for the Christian means “life has changed, not ended.
The Journey of Grief
For all of us who are going through this year of mourning, life has changed. It seems that grief comes to us in different ways. Just when you think you are healed, you will find yourself in tears. Depending on the depth and the closeness of the relationship, the loss of a loved one leaves us with an emotional wound. We mourn our loss not just for a year but in many ways forever until we see them again.
There is no time limit on grief. The pain may disappear for a while, but it returns at certain times and rises when we remember events and special days. Grief is the price of love. In the end, it is better to have loved and have the pain of grief than never to have loved. If we can always hold our departed loved ones in our hearts, how much more does God hold us to His heart?
A Call to Compassion
Today and every day, the Church prays for her children who have gone before us. We pray for them because we believe in the Resurrection of Christ and life of the world to come.
I invite all, especially those who are mourning this year, to see the heart of God manifested to us in the kindness, understanding, and compassion we have received from our friends, neighbors, and relatives. As we walk through this coming holiday season, perhaps we can pray for each other that we may find our hope, peace, and joy in knowing that God is with us.
May God give rest to our loved ones and consolation to all who mourn. May our faith be our strength and eternal life our hope.
Msgr. Guy A. Massie
November 1, 2025

